A friend and I were planning our funerals via email. We especially concentrated on the music. This somehow made it all seem less grim and even joyful. Now she’s gone. I have no one to replace her. My funeral plan is not finished. I so miss her.
This article brings to mind those of us who live alone. It reminds me to count your friends as family by choice. To build a community... be it one or 21... and take comfort from their support.
Getting an extra week is good. Last night a youtube lecture with David Brooks turned as if by magic. My dad read all his books. He would have loved the lecture. David got to a part where a dying man, though unable to speak, was able to listen with teary eyes to all his loved ones tell him everything they needed to say. My father was saddened that he had pushed loved ones away. There were three of us around him when he died. I'm haunted by how my folk's died. They deserved so much better.
Death is such a normal part of life, yet still so incredibly shocking when we encounter it up close like this. Always a good reminder to take nothing for granted and appreciate what we have. Thanks for the reminder ❤️
I am so grateful for substack even if I never achieve any success as a writer..I am so inspired and supported in my beliefs of open discussions on this..thank you!
This reminds me of my lovely grandfather, who is 97 and has seen his wife and most (all?) of his friends die along the way. He got to meet grandchildren that were only born in recent years. It's a cruel blessing (or vice versa).
Of course, your years of experience are 'of some use'! They are invaluable. I think we tend to forget or underestimate how much we understand about people, just due to living a long time. And helping motherless people is a wonderful thing to do. It sounds like you already have a big family if you've hit the great-grandchildren stage. Go for it.
Ann, I’m so sorry that your choir had to witness something like this and suffer this loss. I’m delighted to hear he had another week with his family though. Sending hugs to all.
A friend and I were planning our funerals via email. We especially concentrated on the music. This somehow made it all seem less grim and even joyful. Now she’s gone. I have no one to replace her. My funeral plan is not finished. I so miss her.
This article brings to mind those of us who live alone. It reminds me to count your friends as family by choice. To build a community... be it one or 21... and take comfort from their support.
Getting an extra week is good. Last night a youtube lecture with David Brooks turned as if by magic. My dad read all his books. He would have loved the lecture. David got to a part where a dying man, though unable to speak, was able to listen with teary eyes to all his loved ones tell him everything they needed to say. My father was saddened that he had pushed loved ones away. There were three of us around him when he died. I'm haunted by how my folk's died. They deserved so much better.
Death is such a normal part of life, yet still so incredibly shocking when we encounter it up close like this. Always a good reminder to take nothing for granted and appreciate what we have. Thanks for the reminder ❤️
I am so grateful for substack even if I never achieve any success as a writer..I am so inspired and supported in my beliefs of open discussions on this..thank you!
This reminds me of my lovely grandfather, who is 97 and has seen his wife and most (all?) of his friends die along the way. He got to meet grandchildren that were only born in recent years. It's a cruel blessing (or vice versa).
Of course, your years of experience are 'of some use'! They are invaluable. I think we tend to forget or underestimate how much we understand about people, just due to living a long time. And helping motherless people is a wonderful thing to do. It sounds like you already have a big family if you've hit the great-grandchildren stage. Go for it.
Ann, I’m so sorry that your choir had to witness something like this and suffer this loss. I’m delighted to hear he had another week with his family though. Sending hugs to all.