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Ann, coming to this late. Lovely. My husband and I just celebrated our 51st. Still figuring things out, we still argue, but we’re still in love.

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If you liked that. I strongly recommend this, which was recently reposted on a friend's site (it's actually in my book), which is about the meaning of love and is one of my very favourite of all time - you will see why when you read it. https://karldrinkwater.substack.com/p/friday-fiction-encounter-in-rome

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oh my goodness yes! magnificent. I love that your husband carefully thought and then articulated the meaning of love in front of this stranger.

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As I said, he is an academic and used to answering all sorts of things, but this was a new one to him, so he had to find a new answer – a rather good one in my view (not because it is about me).

Incidentally, one of the small messages I am trying to convey from time to time (not all the time as that would be crass) is that sex doesn't stop when you are old. I guess for some it does, but lots of young people think that is the case for everyone. Or they think we do it differently etc etc. Rubbish, for me it is the same but better at 81 than 21. I wrote a post about my father who started an affair with a woman when he was 90 and she was 83 (my mother was alive, but had dementia). It's not on substack. I could send you a link, but I don't want to overwhelm you. Let me know. I did write a post about research on orgasms on here, however.

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What a tender and loving memory to share. I myself married at 40 so missed some of the growing pains you mentioned. Thank you for sharing this journey on the occasion of your 60th Anniversary.

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Congratulations on 60 years. Truly amazing

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This is lovely. Congrats on 60 years. Hubby and I are almost at 32 but have been together for 36 years. I love that I’ve known him longer than I haven’t. Cheers.

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